My brother and I were talking to the other day and I was asking him the age old question that he never gets asked by our family members but I always seem to (probably because I am a woman) "when are you going to settle down and get married?" Of course he didn't have an answer and I asked him did he still talk to this one girl that had kids. He told me yes, and I asked him what was up with him being with all of these women that have children? He said that he didn't know and then we got into this discussion about children and I told him that I wasn't having any children until I got married. He told me no does that any more, and my thought was well why not, you can call me old fashion if you want to but I truly don't believe in having childeren before marriage or that being the reason that you are getting married.
Children are a blessing and a HUGE responsibility and I don't think that you should have them lightly. I have ALWAYS hated the term "baby mama" and "baby daddy" ever since people have started saying it in the mid 90's.
I do have a reason behind it all, and it mostly has to do with fear. Fear of raising a child alone, fear of not being able to take care of a child alone, fear of struggling as a single parent, I grew up in a single parent household, I know what its like, and its not all fun.
There are ways that you can prevent it from happening, like keeping your sexual partners to a minimum, using several forms of birth control (the safer the better). It's about being cautious and careful instead of being sorry and regretful and taking that out on your child(ren). I know what that feels like to and its not a good thing either.
I said all of that to say this. I am a single woman that believes in falling in love, getting married, and then having children, and I am not afraid to be that woman in today's society.
I am who I am. Take it or leave.
Until next time
Peace & Blessings
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